My Divorce Story
Serving Families for More Than 30 Years
If you are not into reading resumes and biographies, here is my story.
I was a paralegal for 7 years before I became a lawyer. I worked full time by day and went to law school by night for four years. I started practicing law in 1984 and have been in the legal community over 35 years.
My first job as a paralegal was working for a family law attorney. I loved working with the clients. As a result, when I graduated law school and passed the Bar Exam, I decided to practice family law.
After one year as an associate, I became a partner. 10 years later, when my daughter was a year old, I decided to open my own firm and have done that ever since.
The First Part of My Career
For the first 14 years of my life as an attorney I was a litigator. My focus was on high conflict custody cases. I represented moms and dads. I was also appointed to represent children when their parents’ behavior got in the way of them making good choices for the children. I often worked with alcohol-and drug-addicted parents and even some accused of abusing their children. I also worked on high asset cases. And I was very good in the courtroom.
But, all of that took its toll. In fact, I almost quit practicing law to become a high school history teacher. I went to a vocational counselor who did all the usual aptitude assessments and the three things I scored highest on were the law, teaching and the ministry. Now, I happen to be a very spiritual person, but I never thought of the ministry until one of my former clients pointed out that my practice was my ministry.
My Career Now
Now, I do all three things on which I scored highest. I help people resolve their cases outside of court through mediation; I teach them through Law 101 presentations (ask me, I’ll explain) and I teach other lawyers and law students. The one thing I do NOT do anymore is litigate.
Being a mediator is my sweet spot and I love it. I have not litigated a case since 1999.
My Personal Experience with Divorce
When my own marriage of 17 years fell apart at the seams, I became a single parent of a 13-year-old. Her dad and I co-parented, but she lived with me most of the time, so I got to do the whole teenage thing alone.
Happily, we all survived mostly intact. My former husband and I separated. I took a long time to file the papers. Then, we took another three years to settle everything. We took it slow, let the dust settle, got our child through high school and then finished the case. We did it out of court, of course.
Today, we are still friends and do not hold any resentments about the divorce (at least I don’t, I stopped speaking for him years ago). Therefore, I speak from experience when I tell you I KNOW what it feels like to go through the whole gut-wrenching experience from beginning to end. It is one of the hardest things I have ever done, and it will be for you as well. That is why I tell you that no one wins in court.
Do You Want to Speak to Me About Divorce Mediation?
I love what I do, and I look forward to helping you and your family navigate the divorce process and stay out of court at the same time. Call my office today at (408) 832-0012 to discuss your situation.